We’ve all done it. We’ve all done something just because someone else is doing it. I’m talking about that birthday party where we didn’t want to have cake, but had ‘just a sliver’ because we were offered. I’m talking about missing a workout to go watch a movie because our partner isn’t up to exercising. At TSFC, we call that type of behavior guilty by association.
I’m not a certified nutritionist and will be the first one to say my job isn’t to tell you what to eat or when to eat. My job is to help you build a longer, healthier and more fulfilled life by making the right decisions when those decisions have to be made. The goal isn’t to skip a meal just because you had that cake at the birthday party and you’re trying to make up the calories. The goal isn’t to lead a life of complete unhappiness because you can’t have certain foods or do certain things. The goal is be able to say I can do these things, or can eat these foods because of my actions.
What I’m talking about is a mindset and a lifestyle. If you’re constantly beating yourself up for missing that workout and not enjoying the reason you missed it, then there is something wrong. Even I take a day off, it’s not the end of the world. What we’re looking for is to try to stay the most consistent with our actions so that if there is something like a birthday party or missed workout then we don’t have to play catch up to make up for it. It’s the bulk of your actions that will average out your result.
Aristotle discussed the average between actions in regards to ‘excess and defect.’ What this is referring to is doing something too much or too little is never a good thing. We’re looking to do something the closest to best as much of the time as we can. We want to have healthier foods than not, make better exercise decisions, and do our best to be as happy as we can for the longest period of time right? Now that we have that on the table, let’s get right to it.
You only see me a half hour, an hour maybe a day? That leaves an awful lot of time that you don’t see me. What we are going to work on is the ability to guide yourself through the right decisions so that during the rest of the week you will not be led astray by your associations, but will want to stay loyal to your longevity with the right decisions. There’s a few simple steps to make this dream a reality.
The first thing you should do is remove temptation. Anything in your house you don’t think you should be eating just throw it out. Anything they rhymes with “eetos” or is a neon color with a cartoon character on it throw it out. There’s nothing good that can come from that and all it leads to is temptation. I heard an excuse from a client that they keep a certain cereal in the house for their grandson. It’s just as bad for him as it is for you! Throw it away.
The next order is to do what my grandfather said and that is “plan your work and work your plan.” Write down (or use your smart phone calendar for the tech savvy) the days and times you are working out. The exact time is crucial. These need to become hardwired in your routine. You eat dinner at the same time, wake up relatively the same time, watch the same shows at the same time, why not have your workout become a part of your daily life? If it’s a rest day write rest day and what you’ll do during rest.
Write your workout out the day before. If it’s training with TSFC write that and which program. If it’s logging into one of our programs write which one. If it’s on your own, write exactly how many sets, repetitions, cardio time, stretching and the like until it is complete. Going to the gym (or home gym) without your workout planned is like going to the grocery store without a list. You’ll be there a lot longer than you wanted to be and will be much less productive!
The goal is to stay vigilant and not let the things around you distract you from your schedule. Try to not fall prey to being guilty by association of not doing a workout, or eating poorly just because there is a distraction. You can do this! Start by writing tomorrow’s workout RIGHT NOW!